22 Jun How to explain to family and friends that you LIKE being a solo traveller
Here’s the thing. Some family and friends just don’t get this solo travel lark. They feel sorry for you and give you the ‘there, there’ pitying looks because you have no-one to travel with. Not only that but they try and bundle you off on holiday with friends or family. No. No. Noooo. Here’s how to explain to family and friends that you LIKE being a solo traveller.
Firstly WOW them with a travel quote. My personal favourite is:
RELATIONSHIPS – IT’S NOT YOU, IT’S ME
Whether the relationship is that of family, friends or significant other. Being together 24/7 can be a make or break. Depending on the length of time of your trip that’s a LOT of time together. Use the line ‘hey I value your friendship too much and I don’t want to fall out with you. It’s not you it’s me’. Alternatively point them in the direction of Eat, Pray, Love, though perhaps skip that if it’s your significant other …
As in without compromise. You want to go and explore and discover things on your own. That’s not being selfish. It’s just being truthful. Don’t get me wrong there are plenty of scenarios where taking a step back and being in agreement for the good of all, is great. Travel is very possibly not one of those scenarios. Your travel companion might like the beach and only the beach. You on the other hand, prefer museums and architecture.
You’re not looking to be the next Lara Croft or Bear Grylls you just want to discover how resourceful you are. When travelling alone, things don’t always go according to plan. It’s good to know that you can comfortably come up with a plan a, b, c and d. But hey if you are looking to be the next Lara Croft or Bear Grylls, big up you.
You like being able to do what you want to do when you want to do it. No waiting around for what seems like hours on end for decisions to be made and for people to be ready to go go, hurry up and go. And that’s without waiting for ages pre trip to see if they can get the same time off of work as you.
HAVING ALONE TIME
Now to stun them with your knowledge of psychology and the benefits of solitude. According to Kenneth Rubin, a developmental psychologist at the University of Maryland solitude can be of benefit ‘if’ it fulfils certain criteria. If it is voluntary, if one can regulate one’s emotions “effectively,” if one can join a social group when desired, and if one can maintain positive relationships outside of it. So if you can tick all of those boxes then some alone time could be perfect for you.
FRIENDSHIPS ACROSS THE GLOBE
Saying that, you only have to be alone if you choose to be. And actually unless you are giving off the don’t-come-anywhere-near-me vibes, it’s very unlikely that you will stay on your own for very long. So that’s another point in that you will make new friends along the way. Even better as they will be tend to be global friends. Yay more places for you to visit for reunions on future travels.
Although you appreciate the holiday offer, if you go off exploring on your own you will have lots of stories to share with them when you come back. You never know, it might just turn them into solo travellers too.
You want to have one. And it can be much more exciting on your own when you fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants. Also when you travel alone invitations can be a plenty with road trips and alike coming your way providing mini adventures with fellow travellers.
You enjoy going out of your comfort zone. It doesn’t have to be heading off alone a la Wild, hiking a 1000 odd miles of the Pacific Crest Trail or solo trekking 2000 miles of Australian desert with your dog and 4 camels. That’s Tracks by the way. Travelling alone whether through choice or circumstance is one of the most empowering things you can do.
If all else fails then utter these immortal words:
Let us know how you explain to your family and friends that you LIKE being a solo traveller!
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